Why Women Can’t Apologize: Is this a sign of the times, or is this something women have always struggled with?
Introduction to the Apology Gap
At Harvard we’re learning about phenomenology, which is the study of experience, and hermeneutics, which deals with interpretation and justification. These concepts form the basis of postmodernism and feminism, which stand in stark contrast to positivism and empiricism (i.e., logic and facts), which are often criticized by these frameworks and univerties at large (smart people go there right?).
I know that all sounds a bit cringe, because it is.
The basis of postmodernism is that there is no such thing as a definitive definition, but ironically, all that matters is the definition. So, obviously they go off and change essentially all definitions to suit their agenda, which is the female version of violence.
### Examples of Changing Definitions
Here are a few examples:
1. **Global Warming vs. Climate Change**: Changing “global warming” to “climate change” makes it more broad and requires less proof, as weather changes daily.
2. **Dollar**: Pre-1971, the dollar was a gold-backed note; post-1971, it retained the same name but had no gold backing.
3. **Racism**: We grew up understanding racism as hating another race. Now, it’s defined as “an oppressed class.” If you’re labeled as an oppressor, you’re automatically considered racist by being part of that group. This seems like a move to legitimize the name-calling of figures like Donald Trump.
4. **Gender Definitions**: The concept of “woman” now includes any person defining themselves as such, leading to the pronouns debate.
5. **Pandemic**: The term “pandemic” was used for COVID-19, and its meaning seemed to change as more information became available about its severity.
What this means is that people can say anything they want and simply change the definition later, rather than admitting they are wrong.
### Do Women Function This Way?
So, is this how women function? Instead of ever admitting they’re wrong, are they caught in a sea of ever-changing and re-defining opinions? Jesus Christ, what a nightmare.
Are women unable to shift to a new idea until they’ve let go of the old one? If you say, “You’re wrong about X,” can they not accept it until you redefine X or replace it with Y?
I can’t accept that they do it simply for safety, because there are times when admitting they are wrong would actually provide them with more safety than not admitting it.
Ego is the manifestation of safety, and they do get offended by being wrong, so that does make sense.
Can they ever experience being wrong? Because being offended is not feeling ‘wrong’—it’s feeling ‘right’ and having your ‘truth’ or ‘ego’ questioned or tested.
### Amber Heard Example
An example is Amber Heard and her lawyer. Amber’s behavior aligns with the feminist/postmodernist structure. She defines things however she wants and then acts as if it is that way:
– “I donated $7M”
– “You pledged.”
– “I donated.”
– “You pledged.”
Under this theory, if the lawyer changed the definition of “pledging” to be better or more socially favorable than donating, Amber would then happily agree. If the lawyer said, “Pledging is actually much better than donating,” or “Pledging is exactly like donating, just not paid right away,” Amber would accept this without issue.
This approach seems absurd and gives me a headache. At no point would she ever be wrong; she would just move from one right position to another. If you said, “But you changed your mind,” she would insist, “No, I didn’t,” and mean it honestly.
I’m massively curious if they truly ‘believe’ it is that way or if they are aware that it is nonsense. Or maybe what I’m writing is nonsense.
### Conclusion
So, is it accurate to say:
1. **For them, is right whatever they feel is right?**
2. **Is it whatever the group decides is right?**
3. **Is it whatever they define themselves as right?**
4. **Is it just a feeling?**
Regarding being wrong:
**Internal:**
1. They must have the prior belief replaced or redefined before they can change it.
2. They can’t conceptualize what ‘wrong’ is.
3. Wrong might be like another sense for them—like fear or pain.
**External:**
1. It’s just postmodernism and they are playing it out.
2. They’re so propped up by society that they never need to be called wrong.