Game 101: How to combine Instagram & Cold Approach – The Ultimate Guide
Why Instagram is the New Dating Hotspot
In today’s digital age, Instagram has become more than just a platform for sharing photos and videos; it’s also a modern-day matchmaking tool! With its vast user base and visual-centric interface, finding a partner on Instagram has never been easier—or more fun. Let’s dive into why Instagram is the new dating hotspot.
Instagram is about honest signals
Instagram is about honest signals. It’s a clear way to show your status and indicate whether you’re high or low value based on your posts and stories.
The way I want you to think about Instagram is like this: Having her follow you puts you on the same level as the guys with 100,000 followers. It does not matter once she’s following. You could have 100 followers or 10,000. 10,000 will help and is an honest signal, but at the same time, once she’s flipping through, your story is seen exactly the same way as the guy with 100,000. If you can’t compete on follower count (which you should be trying to), you can compete on story quality/game. We know it, they don’t. Act as if you do have 100,000 followers. Post the same or even better than those guys and voilà, you’re now at the same level or higher.
Also, think of their leads as “unqualified.” They basically have 100,000 gay dudes, random ugly girls, and thousands of messages they couldn’t be bothered going through. From cold approach, you could easily have 100-200 qualified ‘hot’ leads who are your type, keen, and you’re gaming all at the same time.
Instagram is no longer about your friends or life. Kill that idea. It is game. I’m 31. You think I want to be posting photos of my dinner? Fuck me. Who the fuck cares what I had for dinner? 😂😂
**A Few Thought Experiments:**
So imagine this: you put out a job ad:
– You get 1000 resumes
– You read 100 of them
– You interview 3-5
– You trial 2
Now imagine:
– You knock on 1000 doors
– 100 let you in
– You give 3-5 trials
– 2 people sign up
So how does that apply to game and Instagram?
Imagine you’re a girl using Tinder and Instagram:
– 1000 guys like her posts, message her, send her a request (resumes received)
– She watches 100 stories and looks at 100 profiles (reading the resume)
– She messages 3-5 as a trial
– 2 people sign up: she’s fucking two
Now imagine a girl goes to a bar:
– 100 guys look at her
– 10 guys approach
– She allows 3-5 to talk to her
– 2 people sign up: she fucks one and gives her number to the other
So the guys who have 100,000 followers are sitting back and the girls are finding them. So it’s like comparing marketing to sales. Game is sales, so we go out and run the pitch/interview. They then become a customer (following us/messaging) and we have the option to run brand image campaigns on Instagram.
**Note:** This is why interior designers are number one on Tinder. They’re on Tinder to GET VALIDATION!!!! Not find a boyfriend. Maybe 5 years ago they were. Now they’re filling their Instagram/Snapchat and Facebook funnel and chatting to the guys who can validate their ideas (suck up his knowledge) or chase (gives them validation once they’ve ‘won’ him). This is why I recommend thinking about ‘how’ they’re going to be wanting your validation on:
a) What topic will they be wanting to ask you about? (Mine is Airbnb + property) but mainly fun as that’s what my posts are about.
b) Why would they chase you? (Your game and your perceived value from stories. Isn’t this fun???)
So think of Tinder/bar as two things:
1. Tinder is a funnel to your Instagram/pulling (it’s how girls see it) and all they are doing is funneling as many guys as they can into their ‘resume’ section. They want as many applications as they can get to get the best guy they can. They WANT the 10, so you really have to be gaming like you are a 10.
2. Bars are a funnel to your Instagram: fucking them and picking them up is the interview. Now you’ve passed the application and onto the trial.
3. Your story can be your interview OR you game in the bar. Combining both is where the power comes in.
4. Guys with 100,000 followers have a ‘pull’ strategy where the girls find them. Cold approach is a ‘push’ strategy where you’re cold calling to put them in your funnel. Really note that girls now do this as well; I’ve especially noticed post-25 they will do it actively. So they’re actively putting guys in their funnel, so you should do the same. 100-200 girls is fucking plenty, right? You could manage to get 100 girls following your story from cold approach/Tinder, which is more than enough to be doing a rotation on. Just act like you have 100,000 followers so you’re seen on the same level. She’ll be so happy she landed a 10. Seriously.
**Two Types of Stories:**
1. She’s not keen: Being with other girls. Doing fun shit. Looking ‘hot’ with a six-pack, etc., will help.
2. She’s keen: Any photos with girls will possibly kill it. So you now switch to posting ‘vague’ photos you’re with other people. Not directly showing other girls. Or you can do direct if you’re ruthless, but that will fuck some situations up.
**Steps:**
1. Cold approach to get her Instagram.
2. Post a story and message after.
3. Responsive: keep messaging. Non-responsive: wait until you’ve posted another story.
4. Go out and find more leads for the funnel every day.
**Note:** Whatever your last story is IS your value. Craft your page as a collation of the honest signals, and every story is a new chance at receiving her application each story post.
**These Are the Elements They’re Biologically Looking For:**
**Your Status Elements:**
– Healthy: looks, high energy, happy/positive, high self-esteem: not qualifying, self-deprecating, not chasing validation (ironically right?? haha).
– Intelligent: smart words, socially aware, funny.
– Social Status: Other people react to you well. Lots of likes/followers. Leader. Your car, job level, car, watch, clothes, where you’re traveling, how often, how much money you’re making. Popular.
– Bravery: tattoos, public speaking, look strong and tough.
– Fun: good attitude, smiling, people are smiling with you, lots of friends and cool friends.
– Rich: nice car, dressed well, gold, etc.
– Popular: Big Instagram following, photos with friends, having cool friends.
– Have a happy life: happy, confident, grounded, non-reactive to others.
– Strong: big muscles, non-reactive, not qualifying, strong with your beliefs, can handle her whining, knowing what to do, not telling her your problems, calm in a dangerous event. Loud, clear voice.
**In-Person Higher Status:**
– They talk down to you and it has no effect.
– When you’re doing something stupid and they look at you, you don’t stop but amplify.
– They shift eye contact before you do.
– Non-reactive to them, they’re reactive to you. Agree and amplify shit tests.
– You care less: She says she’s seeing someone else, you don’t care; she’s instigating kissing you; she’s instigating going out with you; she wants to marry you.
– Healthy: In shape, high energy, positive (GOOD LOOKING!).
**Her Personal Status Elements:**
– Her height
– Her perceived looks
– Her intelligence level
– Her job level
– Her positivity level/self-esteem
– Her dominance level
– Her health/gym habits
– Who she’s following/messaging already
– Her previous looks
– Her previous boyfriends (compared to)
– Her previous boyfriends’ status—most importantly: a guy whom she chased who didn’t want her. How dominant the guy was.
– How tall her exes were. How smart, everything from all status elements she values as a comparison to you. Especially reactiveness, dominance, looks, etc.
– Her hobbies (drinking, bowling, etc.)
– Her music tastes
– What kind of sex she likes
– How much validation she chases and how
– How she views men
**So:**
1. Work on the physical presence of your profile but also ACT as if you have 100,000 followers already. I have girls with like 100 followers who act and look as if they have 1M. I can’t tell the difference when I watch their stories.
2. If you’re a) not approaching, b) not gaining a following, not in the gym, or don’t have a niche creative following, then how do you expect something to happen? Start filling the funnel.
3. The game just keeps on going past sleeping with them (these days anyway. It’s the biggest difference I see since 5-10 years ago).
4. Think of your funnel as ‘qualified’ and guys with 100,000 as ‘unqualified.’ If you have 100,000, good on you and please give us any tips as to how to go about it, but it isn’t necessary to start today, so there’s no excuse.