How to Run Instagram Game Alongside Cold Approach and How to Compete with the Guys with 1M Followers<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Instagram is about honest signals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s a clear way to show your status and indicate whether you\u2019re high or low value based on your posts and stories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The way I want you to think about Instagram is like this: Having her follow you puts you on the same level as the guys with 100,000 followers. It does not matter once she\u2019s following. You could have 100 followers or 10,000. 10,000 will help and is an honest signal, but at the same time, once she\u2019s flipping through, your story is seen exactly the same way as the guy with 100,000. If you can\u2019t compete on follower count, so compete on story quality\/game. We know it, they don\u2019t. Act as if you do have 100,000 followers. Post the same or even better than those guys and voil\u00e0, you\u2019re now at the same level or higher. Comparing two girls I am seeing, one has 10,000 followers, one has 200. The one with 200 appears as if she has 2M based on her posts and her stories, and I find her more intimidating (it\u2019s a bit of a mind trick) so we can do the same.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Also, think of someone with 100,000 followers as having leads that are \u201cunqualified.\u201d They basically have 100,000 gay dudes, random ugly girls, and thousands of messages they couldn\u2019t be bothered going through. From cold approach, you could easily have 100-200 qualified \u2018hot\u2019 leads who are your type, keen, and you\u2019re gaming all at the same time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Instagram is no longer about your friends or life. Kill that idea. It is game. I\u2019m 31. You think I want to be posting photos of my dinner? Fuck me. Who the fuck cares what I had for dinner? Game is game. Whatever works. \ud83d\ude02\ud83d\ude02<\/p>\n\n\n\n
**A Few Thought Experiments:**<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So imagine this: you put out a job ad:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– You get 1000 resumes<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– You read 100 of them<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– You interview 3-5<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– You trial 2<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Now imagine:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– You knock on 1000 doors<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– 100 let you in<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– You give 3-5 trials<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– 2 people sign up<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So how does that apply to game and Instagram?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Imagine you\u2019re a girl using Tinder and Instagram:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– 1000 guys like her posts, message her, send her a request (resumes received)<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– She watches 100 stories and looks at 100 profiles (reading the resume)<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– She messages 3-5 as a trial<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– 2 people sign up: she\u2019s fucking two<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Now imagine a girl goes to a bar:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– 100 guys look at her<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– 10 guys approach<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– She allows 3-5 to talk to her<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– 2 people sign up: she fucks one and gives her number to the other<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So the guys who have 100,000 followers are sitting back and the girls are finding them. So it\u2019s like comparing marketing to sales. Game is sales, so we go out and run the pitch\/interview. They then become a customer (following us\/messaging) and we have the option to run brand image campaigns on Instagram.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
**Note:** This is why interior designers are number one on Tinder. They\u2019re on Tinder to GET VALIDATION!!!! Not find a boyfriend. Maybe 5 years ago they were. Now they\u2019re filling their Instagram\/Snapchat and Facebook funnel and chatting to the guys who can validate their ideas (suck up his knowledge) or chase (gives them validation once they\u2019ve \u2018won\u2019 him). This is why I recommend thinking about \u2018how\u2019 they\u2019re going to be wanting your validation on:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
a) What topic will they be wanting to ask you about? (Mine is Airbnb + property) but mainly fun as that\u2019s what my posts are about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
b) Why would they chase you? (Your game and your perceived value from stories. Isn\u2019t this fun???)<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So think of Tinder\/bar as two things:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. Tinder is a funnel to your Instagram\/pulling (it\u2019s how girls see it) and all they are doing is funneling as many guys as they can into their \u2018resume\u2019 section. They want as many applications as they can get to get the best guy they can. They WANT the 10, so you really have to be gaming like you are a 10.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
2. Bars are a funnel to your Instagram: fucking them and picking them up is the interview. Now you\u2019ve passed the application and onto the trial.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
3. Your story can be your interview OR you game in the bar. Combining both is where the power comes in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
4. Guys with 100,000 followers have a \u2018pull\u2019 strategy where the girls find them. Cold approach is a \u2018push\u2019 strategy where you\u2019re cold calling to put them in your funnel. Really note that girls now do this as well; I\u2019ve especially noticed post-25 they will do it actively. So they\u2019re actively putting guys in their funnel, so you should do the same. 100-200 girls is fucking plenty, right? You could manage to get 100 girls following your story from cold approach\/Tinder, which is more than enough to be doing a rotation on. Just act like you have 100,000 followers so you\u2019re seen on the same level. She\u2019ll be so happy she landed a 10. Seriously.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
**Two Types of Stories:**<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. She\u2019s not keen: Being with other girls. Doing fun shit. Looking \u2018hot\u2019 with a six-pack, etc., will help.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
2. She\u2019s keen: Any photos with girls will possibly kill it. So you now switch to posting \u2018vague\u2019 photos you\u2019re with other people. Not directly showing other girls. Or you can do direct if you\u2019re ruthless, but that will fuck some situations up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
**Steps:**<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. Cold approach to get her Instagram.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
2. Post a story and message after.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
3. Responsive: keep messaging. Non-responsive: wait until you\u2019ve posted another story.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
4. Go out and find more leads for the funnel every day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
**Note:** Whatever your last story is IS your value. Craft your page as a collation of the honest signals, and every story is a new chance at receiving her application each story post.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
**These Are the Elements They\u2019re Biologically Looking For:**<\/p>\n\n\n\n
**Your Status Elements:**<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Healthy: looks, high energy, happy\/positive, high self-esteem: not qualifying, self-deprecating, not chasing validation (ironically right?? haha).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Intelligent: smart words, socially aware, funny.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Social Status: Other people react to you well. Lots of likes\/followers. Leader. Your car, job level, car, watch, clothes, where you\u2019re traveling, how often, how much money you\u2019re making. Popular.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Bravery: tattoos, public speaking, look strong and tough.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Fun: good attitude, smiling, people are smiling with you, lots of friends and cool friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Rich: nice car, dressed well, gold, etc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Popular: Big Instagram following, photos with friends, having cool friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Have a happy life: happy, confident, grounded, non-reactive to others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Strong: big muscles, non-reactive, not qualifying, strong with your beliefs, can handle her whining, knowing what to do, not telling her your problems, calm in a dangerous event. Loud, clear voice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
**In-Person Higher Status:**<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– They talk down to you and it has no effect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– When you\u2019re doing something stupid and they look at you, you don\u2019t stop but amplify.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– They shift eye contact before you do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Non-reactive to them, they\u2019re reactive to you. Agree and amplify shit tests.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– You care less: She says she\u2019s seeing someone else, you don\u2019t care; she\u2019s instigating kissing you; she\u2019s instigating going out with you; she wants to marry you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Healthy: In shape, high energy, positive (GOOD LOOKING!).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
**Her Personal Status Elements:**<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Her height<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Her perceived looks<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Her intelligence level<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Her job level<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Her positivity level\/self-esteem<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Her dominance level<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Her health\/gym habits<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Who she\u2019s following\/messaging already<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Her previous looks<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Her previous boyfriends (compared to)<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Her previous boyfriends’ status\u2014most importantly: a guy whom she chased who didn\u2019t want her. How dominant the guy was.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– How tall her exes were. How smart, everything from all status elements she values as a comparison to you. Especially reactiveness, dominance, looks, etc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Her hobbies (drinking, bowling, etc.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Her music tastes<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– What kind of sex she likes<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– How much validation she chases and how<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– How she views men<\/p>\n\n\n\n
**So:**<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. Work on the physical presence of your profile but also ACT as if you have 100,000 followers already. I have girls with like 100 followers who act and look as if they have 1M. I can\u2019t tell the difference when I watch their stories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
2. If you\u2019re a) not approaching, b) not gaining a following, not in the gym, or don\u2019t have a niche creative following, then how do you expect something to happen? Start filling the funnel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
3. The game just keeps on going past sleeping with them (these days anyway. It\u2019s the biggest difference I see since 5-10 years ago).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
4. Think of your funnel as \u2018qualified\u2019 and guys with 100,000 as \u2018unqualified.\u2019 If you have 100,000, good on you and please give us any tips as to how to go about it, but it isn\u2019t necessary to start today, so there\u2019s no excuse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In today’s digital world, Instagram has evolved beyond being just a photo-sharing app. It’s now a vibrant platform where connections are made, friendships are forged, and yes, even romantic relationships blossom. With over a billion users, Instagram offers countless opportunities to meet someone special. But how do you go about finding love on Instagram? Let’s dive in!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Your Instagram profile is your digital first impression. Ensure your bio is catchy and reflects your personality. Use high-quality photos that showcase your interests and lifestyle. Authenticity is key\u2014people are more likely to engage with you if they feel you’re being genuine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So, you’ve spotted someone interesting. Now what? Start by liking and commenting on their posts. Make your comments thoughtful and engaging; this shows that you’re genuinely interested. Avoid spamming them with likes or comments, as this can come off as creepy. Building a connection takes time, so be patient.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Direct messaging (DM) is where the magic happens. When you’re ready, send a friendly and genuine message. Reference something from their posts to show that you’ve paid attention. Be respectful and avoid cheesy pick-up lines. A simple, “Hey, I noticed we share a love for hiking. Have you been to any cool spots lately?” can be a great conversation starter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
While meeting new people on Instagram can be exciting, always prioritize your safety. Don’t rush into sharing personal information. If you decide to meet up, choose a public place and let someone know where you’re going. Trust your instincts\u2014if something feels off, it’s okay to step back.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Finding a partner on Instagram can be fun and rewarding. With the right approach, you might just find your perfect match while scrolling through your feed. Happy dating!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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